Everything I Notice
Essays on relationships, safety, nervous-system regulation, motherhood, trauma, identity, creativity, rebuilding, and the things I am learning as I move forward.
These pieces are personal, reflective, and written from lived experience. Some look backward. Others document what I am understanding now.
I Have the Emails
Contemporaneous emails and letters from 2008, 2009, and 2018 document hurt, self-questioning, chronic blame, betrayal, and emotional depletion years before the marriage ended. Together, they preserve a first-person record of my repeated efforts to be heard, repair the relationship, and understand what was happening while I was still living inside it.
The Confession Hidden in Plain Sight
A July 12, 2018 email exchange, written more than six years before I left the marriage, documents betrayal, chronic blame, emotional depletion, and the gradual erosion of my sense of self. Later that evening, Kyle acknowledged, “I know that I’ve hurt you” and “I haven’t been good to you,” while asking me to stay.
Second Arrow in Ink
An Old Sick Dead artwork reading “What Second Arrow?” was later tattooed on another person, demonstrating how far the image and spiritual persona had traveled beyond its original context. This essay examines what that circulation meant to me when viewed alongside the private history surrounding the work.