Non-Harm Includes Accountability

(Reference: Kyle Morgan, public Facebook post dated December 25, 2025.)

On December 25, 2025, one year to the day after I filed my divorce papers, Kyle Morgan published a public post titled “Were You Conscious Of The Overkill?” In it, he frames repeated definition as cruelty, suggests that restraint of “consciousness” is compassion, and closes with a blessing for peace in one’s practice.

Here is what I know to be true, both psychologically and ethically.

Clarity is not cruelty

Repeating the truth is not the same thing as punishing someone. When a person has lived through denial, minimization, reframing, and reality distortion, the mind and body do not stabilize through silence. They stabilize through clarity. They stabilize through consistency. They stabilize through a coherent record that cannot be edited in real time by whoever has the most charm, the most control, or the loudest narrative.

A single spear can wound. A hundred spears is torture. But naming what happened, accurately, is not a spear. It is a boundary. It is orientation. It is the restoration of contact with reality.

Compassion is not comfort for the one who caused harm

Compassion is not asking the harmed to stop speaking so the one who caused harm can feel more comfortable. Compassion is non-harm. Compassion is accountability without theatrics. Compassion is repair where repair is owed.

Restraint is not “stop noticing.” Restraint is stopping the behavior that keeps generating new evidence, and then tolerating the truth without trying to control it.

Legal status is not the same thing as repair

Separation and divorce do not automatically end harm. Harm can continue post-separation through choices that prolong conflict, distort reality, pressure silence, or destabilize the people who are trying to recover and rebuild. Legal status is not the same thing as ethical repair. Filing dates do not reset the nervous system. Consistent, accountable behavior does.

What holds up under daylight

I am not interested in diagnosing anyone. I am interested in patterns and outcomes. I am interested in what holds up under daylight. I am interested in whether someone’s private conduct matches their public posture, and whether their idea of “peace” requires other people to become silent.

I will continue to speak truthfully and document what is real. If clarity is called “overkill,” so be it. I am not here to protect a mask. I am here to protect the record.

Image note: The image shown is an original graphic gifted to me on July 6, 2023.

Artwork credit: Kyle Morgan (also known online as “Old Sick Dead”).